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If you’re reading this, you are lucky!

14 Mar

I’m a lucky guy! So are you if you’re reading this!

Economic recession? Wallet’s tight? Putting in those extra hours for that extra “bling”? Higher interest rates? Boss putting an insane amount of pressure on your head? Feel like you have nothing left? You’re done?

Well if you’re reading this, then none of the above are actually an existential crisis for you. You reading this means – you have a computer/ laptop/ phone, a working Internet connection, electricity, you’ve had a meal already and positively a roof over your head. Also like me you have a lovely family, some great buddies and people who support you.

For numerous folk these are fairy tale scene. Getting a glass of fresh water to drink is a blessing for people in drought stricken regions, a morsel of clean food, a gift for a populace in the famine ravaged regions of the world. For others in war ravaged regions, home is but two stilts acting as a support for a sheet of plastic. This just puts our position in a diametrically opposite perspective where our lives are secure, warm and all fuzzy. Now, it would only seem apt to be overly satisfied with what we have and how much we have. Privilege is what we have in the face of the adversity the world is facing everyday.

In the ever growing age of desire, marketing, advertising and peer pressure, we give in to it! Everyone is after the next “IT” thing! And this we reflect sometimes on our children.

There are a couple of things I’m currently working on, one of them would be to simplify life; take out all the unnecessary, don’t let in this stuff in my life again. Appreciate all that I have material and otherwise, with latter being the more important of the two! A deeply caring and loving family I can always fall back on.

Another, to pass this on to my daughter.I’m having a growing daughter at home, making things difficult by wasting water, food etc. These are the moments forbearing on a parent. It sometimes cannot be ignored simply because the child starts throwing tantrums; it is then with utmost restraint we need to teach them, explain it to them how fortunate enough we are to have things which a vast section of mankind doesn’t know if such a thing were to exist.

There are simple things I try to appreciate; a sunrise, the early morning sounds of birds, my daughter’s calling. Simplify.

Newton said “Nature is pleased with simplicity.” But then Da Vinci comes a close second to mind, “Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.”

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2 Years of Daddy-ism!! (-:

24 Apr

2:47 PM, May 7th, 2010…tensed emotions…slowly the door opens, the doctor calls for the first time – “The Father” and I’m already breaking down…the nurse holds her up and the doctor says – “You have a girl…” The first thing I do holding back my emotions, I say the Almighty’s name in her ears…blessing her and feeling blessed…she is kicking about, feeling uncomfortable, losing the warmth of the embryo…Amritha! Amritha! I keep saying to myself…rush to my wife; she is still under anaesthetic effects, grip her hands…words don’t escape us, but we understand each other perfectly well; a kiss on her forehead, and the gynaecologist chases me out…spend a few very joyous moments with my brother and father…secretly we know amma has returned!! I’m rushing behind the nurse with my daughter who gives her a wash, puts a small tag on her hand with “B/O Sowmya”…my wait extends a bit longer as she carries the baby to the ward where her mother is waiting…then a moment everyone waits for…Amritha is handed over to me…it doesn’t matter if you’ve held a baby or not your entire life, at that moment you will; like a pre-programmed mechanism you will gently nurse the baby in your arms…and secretly a tear escapes me…

This entire sequence of events I have been closing my eyes and playing everyday since that wonderful day; just so that I don’t forget the amazing feeling of becoming a father…such powerful, strong emotions…even now as I blog about it…every father will know and connect to this…if I could freeze time that one moment when the doctor said – “The father”, and I see Amritha!!! These are the moments, events that make up life…give meaning to everything that you’ve put into life, a purpose to everything that you’ve put into life…

Amritha will be two years old in a short time from now; time puts forth its very fundamental lesson – “I don’t wait for anyone or anything”

I try to keep reminding myself of the times when the nappies were changed at night, of the cries, of the first times she experienced everything – of her first winter, of her first summer, of her first fall, of her first syllables, her first laughs, of her first smiles, her first steps…her first attempts at calling me “Appa” and Sowmya, “Amma”…every moment has been a magical one…Babies, children always manage to do that…with all their innocence and unconditional love, they make you feel blessed…

Now she speaks fluently, conveys things, has her perspective of things, leaves me surprised at times with the things she does and sometimes doesn’t…she’ll suddenly come running hold both my legs, hug me tight…asks me to carry her and hugs me tight and says Appa, pats me on the cheeks and smiles…sometimes there’s a wave of emotions gushing down…” so much love?”, i ask myself…there just needs to be a fraction of this love in all of us, the world will be a much better place…

There are over a thousand photos of her, a sizeable amount of video footage and a few audio clips…what is missing is an emotion recorded…where I can record mine and show them to Amritha…how lucky me and Sowmya are to have we…God bless Amritha, God bless all…

Where should we be? TODAY!!

16 May
Past, Present or Future?
Where??

Being a strong believer and follower of Hindu religion and philosophy, there is a quote which goes this way -

गते शोको न कर्तव्यो भविष्यं नैव चिंतयेत्।

वर्तमानेन कालेन वर्तयंति विचक्षणाः॥

gatey shoko na kartavyo bhavishyam nai-va chintye-`t

vartamaanena kaalena vartayanti vichak-shanaah

Meaning “One should not regret the past; one should not worry about the future. Wise men act by the present time.”

A very famous quote by Buddha treads the very same path – “Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment.”

Numerous other wizened men and women have all referred this, the quintessential being to Live in the Now, not the then nor the when…what then are the past and the future are for? These are thoughts that have been plaguing my mind, why then should they exist and if they do so why then are we so obsessed with it. The human mind as I have come to understand of my own self, is like a logical device – always comparing, always distinguishing, toiling to differentiate and trying to arrive at a logical conclusion, as it is logic that has been so deeply ingrained into us.

Some very common lines that we create and repeat – “Oh! I should have done this the other way!” or “What should I do about this in the future?

What we are essentially doing here is letting go of the now by looking at our past actions and pondering over our future. The end result of this being recalling about how valuable time was lost in the past thinking about it; this becomes an endless chain eating into our lives and slowly draining the joy from it. Life becomes a grinding misery upon continuous cycles of past-future thought.

Slowly but steadily I am trying to reduce this but will take sometime as it is a characteristic that we a re supposedly born with; it is left for us to decide whether we look into the rear view mirror of life and squirm about it or live in the now and enjoy it!

Anger is a wonderful indicator :)

8 Jun

Is a person close to you getting mad at you frequently? are there sudden outbursts of frustration? chill dont worry…you need to feel secure…it’s because anger is an emotion that you can’t express at everyone…but only at people who you feel will understand, care and love you…every other emotion happiness, sadness can be expressed with anyone on the street but anger is a totally different story altogether…

the next time someone gets angrrr..y be rest assured! :)

God bless…

LIFEXPERIENCE!

6 Jun

A lazy Sunday afternoon…nothing much to do…daughter is a month old…going to sleep :) she is the center of all my attention and not to forget her mum…but as i veer off from here i begin to feel there are certain things in life that we don’t notice, experiences that have enriched our lives, indirectly, certain others directly…where would i be without going through these? i can’t seem to figure this out…some moments truly joyous, some tragically depressing, certain others blunt and trifle others which were nugatory…there are experiences which have been as extreme as death of my mother and as moving as the birth of my daughter and as amazing as my wife and my family which have directed the path of my life…then there are others – the first time we learnt to ride the cycle, the first time we had a jab of the doc’s needle or learning to handle a computer…these have conditioned me, moulded me into what i am; these which you carry on the journey of life need not be the most memorable ones but however big or small, happy or sad they teach you something of a beauty that’s called LIFE!

God bless…

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